The first place I looked at was online.<\/p>\n
I waited until the house was quiet, then sat on the edge of my bed with my laptop open.<\/p>\n
I typed in the name of the town and the words \u201cone-bedroom apartments for rent.\u201d<\/p>\n
The results filled the screen.<\/p>\n
Some places were too expensive.<\/p>\n
Others were too far away from Michael's house.<\/p>\n
A few looked pleasant in their photographs, with bright kitchens and clean windows, but I knew photographs could hide a great deal.<\/p>\n
I wrote down three addresses in my notebook.<\/p>\n
I did not call anyone yet.<\/p>\n
For years, I had made decisions by imagining how they would affect everybody else.<\/p>\n
Would Michael be disappointed?<\/p>\n
Would Jessica think I was ungrateful?<\/p>\n
Would the children believe I was leaving because I didn't love them?<\/p>\n
Those questions still mattered to me.<\/p>\n
But I was beginning to understand that they could not be the only questions I asked.<\/p>\n
I also had to ask whether I could afford a place.<\/p>\n
Whether I could manage the stairs.<\/p>\n
Whether the neighborhood was safe and whether I could reach a grocery store without needing a ride.<\/p>\n
Whether I would feel comfortable waking up there on an ordinary Tuesday morning.<\/p>\n
I spent almost an hour looking at listings.<\/p>\n
Then I closed the laptop and went downstairs.<\/p>\n
Jessica was making a grocery list at the kitchen table.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you need anything from the store?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cTea, if you're going.\u201d<\/p>\n
She wrote it down.<\/p>\n
\u201cAnything else?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, thank you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I poured myself a glass of water.<\/p>\n
Jessica looked up from her list.<\/p>\n
\u201cHow are you feeling today?\u201d<\/p>\n
The question was becoming less unusual.<\/p>\n
\u201cI'm all right.\u201d<\/p>\n
She waited, perhaps wondering whether I would say more.<\/p>\n
\u201cI've been thinking about what we talked about,\u201d I added.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo have I.\u201d<\/p>\n
She put the pencil down.<\/p>\n
\u201cI checked the after-school program. It's more affordable than I expected.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat sounds promising.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThey have spaces available for two afternoons a week.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat could help.\u201d<\/p>\n
She nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cI also talked to Michael about changing his schedule on Fridays. He thinks he can get home earlier most weeks.\u201d<\/p>\n
I felt a small wave of relief.<\/p>\n
Those were practical changes, not promises made in the heat of a difficult conversation.<\/p>\n
They might actually make a difference.<\/p>\n
\u201cThank you for looking into it,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
Jessica gave me a tired smile.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe should have done it sooner.\u201d<\/p>\n
I didn't disagree.<\/p>\n
But I was glad she was doing it now.<\/p>\n
That afternoon, I called my friend.<\/p>\n
She answered on the second ring.<\/p>\n
\u201cI was wondering when I'd hear from you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I smiled.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn't realize I had a calling schedule.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou don't. But I was hoping you'd call.\u201d<\/p>\n
I told her about the conversation with Michael and Jessica.<\/p>\n
I explained the new arrangements we were considering and the way I had started thinking about my own future.<\/p>\n
When I mentioned the apartment listings, she became quiet.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou're looking at places?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cJust looking.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat's a good start.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI haven't decided to leave.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou don't have to decide today.\u201d<\/p>\n
I leaned against the bedroom window.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't want you to think I'm complaining about my family.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThey have a lot on their shoulders.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo do you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked down at the photograph of my old house.<\/p>\n
My friend continued before I could answer.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou can care about what they're dealing with without making yourself responsible for everything.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you?\u201d<\/p>\n
I laughed softly.<\/p>\n
\u201cI'm learning.\u201d<\/p>\n
She asked whether I wanted her to go with me to see a place if I found one worth visiting.<\/p>\n
I had not expected the offer.<\/p>\n
\u201cWould you?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cOf course.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't want to impose.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou aren't imposing by asking a friend to come with you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I let that settle.<\/p>\n
\u201cAll right,\u201d I said. \u201cIf I find something, I'll tell you.\u201d<\/p>\n
We talked for another ten minutes.<\/p>\n
Before we hung up, she reminded me that I did not need to make a move simply because I had begun looking.<\/p>\n
That was exactly what I needed to hear.<\/p>\n
I wasn't trying to escape the house.<\/p>\n
I was trying to stop treating it as my only possible future.<\/p>\n
On Wednesday, I found a small apartment that seemed worth investigating.<\/p>\n
It was in a quiet building near a grocery store and a public library.<\/p>\n
The listing showed a narrow kitchen, a living room with two windows, and a bedroom with enough space for a bed and a dresser.<\/p>\n
There was no garden.<\/p>\n
There was no fireplace.<\/p>\n
The bathroom looked dated, and the kitchen cabinets were an old shade of brown.<\/p>\n
But the rent was within the range I had written in my notebook.<\/p>\n
The building also had an elevator.<\/p>\n
I called the number on the listing.<\/p>\n
A woman named Mrs. Parker answered.<\/p>\n
She explained that the apartment was available immediately and asked when I would like to see it.<\/p>\n
I hesitated.<\/p>\n
Then I chose Friday morning.<\/p>\n
When I hung up, I sat quietly for a moment.<\/p>\n
I had made an appointment to look at a place where I might live.<\/p>\n
It was a small step, but it felt larger than the words could express.<\/p>\n
I had not asked Michael for permission.<\/p>\n
I had not asked Jessica whether she would be upset.<\/p>\n
I had simply made an appointment.<\/p>\n
That evening, I told Clare I might go out on Friday morning.<\/p>\n
She was sitting at the kitchen table, working on a school assignment.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhere are you going?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI have an appointment.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat kind?\u201d<\/p>\n
I considered how to answer.<\/p>\n
\u201cI'm going to look at an apartment.\u201d<\/p>\n
Her pencil stopped moving.<\/p>\n
\u201cOh.\u201d<\/p>\n
I sat down across from her.<\/p>\n
\u201cI haven't decided to move. I'm just learning what's available.\u201d<\/p>\n
She looked at me carefully.<\/p>\n
\u201cDoes Dad know?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNot yet.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAre you going to tell him?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes. I just want to understand my options first.\u201d<\/p>\n
Clare nodded slowly.<\/p>\n
\u201cOkay.\u201d<\/p>\n
She looked back at her assignment, then raised her eyes again.<\/p>\n
\u201cWould you be happier there?\u201d<\/p>\n
I thought about it.<\/p>\n
\u201cI might be happier having a place of my own. But I would miss being close to you.\u201d<\/p>\n
She seemed to consider that answer.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou could still visit.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI could.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd we could still go to the library.\u201d<\/p>\n
I smiled.<\/p>\n
\u201cAbsolutely.\u201d<\/p>\n
She returned to her work.<\/p>\n
A few minutes later, she said, \u201cI think you should see it.\u201d<\/p>\n
I felt a warmth in my chest.<\/p>\n
\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n
She shrugged as if she had said something ordinary.<\/p>\n
Perhaps to her, it was ordinary.<\/p>\n
The next morning, I made breakfast as usual.<\/p>\n
I reminded the boys about their school bags, but I didn't search for their missing things.<\/p>\n
Owen found his folder without help.<\/p>\n
Caleb remembered his water bottle after I asked whether he had checked the counter.<\/p>\n
They were learning.<\/p>\n
So was I.<\/p>\n
Michael left for work after breakfast.<\/p>\n
Jessica was gathering her things near the front door when I told her I would be out Friday morning.<\/p>\n
She looked up.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you have plans?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes. I'm going to see an apartment.\u201d<\/p>\n
Her expression changed.<\/p>\n
For a moment, neither of us spoke.<\/p>\n
Then she asked, \u201cAre you thinking of moving?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI'm thinking about what my options are.\u201d<\/p>\n
She set her handbag down.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid something happen?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo. Nothing happened this morning.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI mean, did we do something?\u201d<\/p>\n
I shook my head.<\/p>\n
\u201cThis isn't about one morning or one argument. I've been thinking about my future for a while.\u201d<\/p>\n
Jessica looked toward the stairs.<\/p>\n
\u201cI thought we were making things better.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWe are making some things better.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen why look at apartments?\u201d<\/p>\n
I tried to choose my words carefully.<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause I want to know that I have choices. Making arrangements here is important, but I also need to think about what would work for me in the long term.\u201d<\/p>\n
She folded her arms.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you feel like you can't stay here?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI feel that I need to decide whether staying here is the right thing for me.\u201d<\/p>\n
Her expression softened, though she still looked worried.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't want you to go.\u201d<\/p>\n
I had wanted to hear those words for months.<\/p>\n
But hearing them now did not erase the uncertainty I felt.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't want to make a decision that hurts anyone,\u201d I said. \u201cBut I can't make my whole decision based on whether someone will be disappointed.\u201d<\/p>\n
Jessica looked down at her handbag.<\/p>\n
\u201cI suppose that's fair.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI'll tell you what I think after I see the place.\u201d<\/p>\n
She nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cOkay.\u201d<\/p>\n
I could see that she wanted to ask more questions.<\/p>\n
I wanted to explain everything.<\/p>\n
But I also knew that I had not made a decision yet.<\/p>\n
There was nothing more to explain until I understood what I was considering.<\/p>\n
On Friday morning, I put on my coat and took my notebook.<\/p>\n
I checked that I had the address written clearly.<\/p>\n
Then I looked around my bedroom.<\/p>\n
The photograph of my old house was on the shelf.<\/p>\n
The blue bowl stood on the dresser.<\/p>\n
My husband's watch was beside the lamp.<\/p>\n
The suitcase was folded away in the closet.<\/p>\n
I had begun to make this room feel a little more like mine.<\/p>\n
That did not mean I had to stay in it forever.<\/p>\n
I turned off the light and went downstairs.<\/p>\n
Michael had already left for work.<\/p>\n
Jessica was in the kitchen with her coffee.<\/p>\n
\u201cGood luck,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stepped outside.<\/p>\n
The air was cold, and the sky was pale with morning light.<\/p>\n
I walked to the car with my notebook in my handbag.<\/p>\n
I was not running away.<\/p>\n
I was looking at a door I had not allowed myself to consider before.<\/p>\n
For the first time, I was willing to find out what might be on the other side.<\/p>\n
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